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Strip Tease

Apr 22 2010 Published by under About Lingerie, Dating & Relationships, erotica

StripteaseIf you’ve been in a relationship for any length of time, it’s entirely possible that some of the fire that was originally in your love life has waned.  It’s frustrating and annoying.  Most of us long for the old days when your partner just couldn’t keep his hands off of you, and the TV collected dust.  Unfortunately, due to hectic lifestyles and a plethora of other modern day exhaustion’s, sometimes couples are just too tired, busy or distracted to “do it” as much as they used to.

Do you want to get your man back?  Are you tired of going to bed with a good book instead of a good man?  I have an idea.  How about luring your guy back with both guns a’ blazin’—how about a strip tease?

The outfit is obviously the most important part to get the strip tease started, and is used mostly to get your man’s attention.  It’s okay if it’s even a bit costume-y, the point is to let him know something out of the ordinary is occurring and that you mean business.  Of course, it helps if the outfit screams “sexy”, but make sure you are fully dressed because the obvious point of the strip tease is to prolong the “undressing”.   Dress fully, but dress accordingly.  Make sure what you have on underneath is as tantalizing as what’s on top, so that every layer that comes off makes the project more and more tantalizing.   This is where some really sexy lingerie could move mountains.

The point of the strip tease is to entice.  So–you’ve dressed for obvious sex appeal and gotten his attention—then what?  The obvious choice at this point is to turn on some seductive music.  Make it good, nothing too rowdy, but music that creates a seductive mood.  You want your man to know that you are a woman filled with overflowing passion and that you are going to seduce him.

At this point in the strip tease, begin to move your body according to the music.  Swing your hips slowly in a circle, seductively.  Touch your body exactly as you wish he would touch yours…but his turn is later.  Do not let him touch you at this point, make him wait.  Be confident in your moves and even though you may feel a bit silly, don’t’ let that show.  Begin to take off that first layer, and when you do, turn your back to him and let the garment fall slowly down your back.  Turn around slowly to torture him gently.   Tantalize him by kicking your shoes off lightly (wear slip ons and don’t hurl them!) slowly to expose your feet and (good idea here) your thigh high stockings.  There is something about thigh high stockings that drive men wild.  They are every woman’s secret weapon and during your strip tease would be the perfect time to don a pair.

After your shoes are off and you are in your stocking feet, put your foot up on a chair or stool and hike your skirt up a little.  Caress your legs from the bottom all the way up…slowly…deliberately.  This will completely torment him.  After you get to the top of your leg, take the top of the stocking and gently roll it down each leg.  Take the stocking and use it as a gentle prop.  Wrap it around him gently and seductively.

After your stockings are off, turn your back to him once again and unzip your skirt and pull it slowly down.  By now you should be in your sexiest lingerie.  Touch yourself exactly as you would want him to touch you, it will drive him crazy.  Turn your back to him again, and undo your bra strap.  Pull each strap down slowly and hold the bra with arms crossed across your breasts and turn around slowly.  Let the bra drop to the floor.  Once again, it’s very important to maintain your composure, even if he’s losing his.  Touch yourself slowly, seductively and show him how much you enjoy it.  Turn around and pull your panties off extremely slowly and then kick them gently in his direction.  Turn around and move your body accordingly.  What you do from here on out is between you and your guy.  I’m betting there won’t be a TV remote involved whatsoever—and that was the point wasn’t it?  Xo J.

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Erotica 101

Apr 02 2010 Published by under About Lingerie, erotica, Sexy Lingerie, Stories & Tips

Where is that thing?

I was thinking today how much I miss the TV show Sex and The City.  I love the quirky friendship of the 4 women on the show and how even though they were so different and had such completely varied interests, they still had such a great bond with each other.   One of the most impressive parts of Carrie, Samantha, Miranda and Charlotte was their ability to talk about most any subject with each other– in particular (thus the theme of the show) was the topic of sex and relationships.  I wondered today what they would think of my latest adventure…the one I am not telling my own friends about…yet.

I read online an article that talked about Erotica and the rising number of women that are buying it in various forms to enhance their relationships.  I was intrigued by this and decided to go to a local adult store to check it out.  Yes, I was a bit embarrassed and was looking over my shoulder the entire time to see if anyone I knew saw me going into the store.  I was really dying to see what was inside this place and took a deep breath and crossed the threshold.  I was in, and there was no turning back now.  At first I was embarrassed, but the salesgirl was amazingly normal looking (I have no idea what I was expecting, really) and the place wasn’t at all trashy.  It was sort of like being in a Victoria’s Secret shop, except with a wider variety of merchandise.

The lingerie was definitely there, but this wasn’t your mother’s lingerie. These items are the stuff that fantasies are made of.  Bras and panties made of satin, lace and precious little of it.  All of it was very, very sexy.  This stuff was incredibly beautiful and bound to hit the floor in a hurry. Some pieces were missing strategic parts; breasts and crotches in some were fully exposed. Easy access, I suppose and I was definitely intrigued.  I took lots of mental notes.

I spent a good amount of time checking out the books and media section.  Yes, there were your standard fare of “porno tapes” but what surprised me was the amount of books that have been written to enhance every aspect of your sexual experience.  I saw everything from the “Kama Sutra” to “Your Orgasmic Pregnancy”.  This might be the stuff you are too shy to ask your friends (unless they happen to be Carrie, Miranda, Samantha and Charlotte) and maybe even your doctor.  I actually picked one up for purchase. Hey, this is education at its finest hour! I can always justify buying a “book”!

The selection of toys, vibrators and other pleasure-enhancers was a little mind-boggling.  I remembered one episode of Sex and The City in particular where Charlotte got strangely addicted to her Rabbit vibrator.  I had always wondered about that and noticed, that yes, indeed this vibrator does exist. Looking around the store I had to admit that some of these gizmos definitely looked fun give a whirl. (I know, I think I’m funny…) Apparently you don’t have to be a big brave girl to give one a try anymore.  There are many very non-intimidating choices for novices. Certainly I could see the real value in a woman getting to know and be comfortable with her body. There has to be legitimate good in knowing what you like and being able to share that information with your partner. There was a very wide range of devices from the very small and discreet to the more bold units that definitely weren’t for beginners.

Bedroom Game

Another fun thing that I saw was a wide variety of bedroom “games”—these could definitely come in handy for couples anxious to “amp” up their love lives but need a little more direction to get things going.  Perfect!  If you are too shy to suggest something, well now you can blame it on the game…sounds like the perfect way to start a fire burning.  I’m really starting to like this store and my hands are beginning to get full of merchandise I want to buy…(My oh my)…I need a basket.

All in all, I had to giggle at my little trip into the land of Erotica and found it much more fun than I had anticipated.   It wasn’t at all the seedy adventure into the tawdry land of porn that I had expected.  Rather this place made sex seem normal, wanting good sex really normal and making sex fun, well something to be embraced and sought after.  Who wouldn’t be down for that?   Sex sells and apparently women are buying it.   Sex and The City?  Not quite.  Today I took PORN 101 and I really learned something.    As for my little erotica class, with my purchases in hand–I’m giving myself an “A”. xo J.

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