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Strip Tease

Apr 22 2010 Published by under About Lingerie, Dating & Relationships, erotica

StripteaseIf you’ve been in a relationship for any length of time, it’s entirely possible that some of the fire that was originally in your love life has waned.  It’s frustrating and annoying.  Most of us long for the old days when your partner just couldn’t keep his hands off of you, and the TV collected dust.  Unfortunately, due to hectic lifestyles and a plethora of other modern day exhaustion’s, sometimes couples are just too tired, busy or distracted to “do it” as much as they used to.

Do you want to get your man back?  Are you tired of going to bed with a good book instead of a good man?  I have an idea.  How about luring your guy back with both guns a’ blazin’—how about a strip tease?

The outfit is obviously the most important part to get the strip tease started, and is used mostly to get your man’s attention.  It’s okay if it’s even a bit costume-y, the point is to let him know something out of the ordinary is occurring and that you mean business.  Of course, it helps if the outfit screams “sexy”, but make sure you are fully dressed because the obvious point of the strip tease is to prolong the “undressing”.   Dress fully, but dress accordingly.  Make sure what you have on underneath is as tantalizing as what’s on top, so that every layer that comes off makes the project more and more tantalizing.   This is where some really sexy lingerie could move mountains.

The point of the strip tease is to entice.  So–you’ve dressed for obvious sex appeal and gotten his attention—then what?  The obvious choice at this point is to turn on some seductive music.  Make it good, nothing too rowdy, but music that creates a seductive mood.  You want your man to know that you are a woman filled with overflowing passion and that you are going to seduce him.

At this point in the strip tease, begin to move your body according to the music.  Swing your hips slowly in a circle, seductively.  Touch your body exactly as you wish he would touch yours…but his turn is later.  Do not let him touch you at this point, make him wait.  Be confident in your moves and even though you may feel a bit silly, don’t’ let that show.  Begin to take off that first layer, and when you do, turn your back to him and let the garment fall slowly down your back.  Turn around slowly to torture him gently.   Tantalize him by kicking your shoes off lightly (wear slip ons and don’t hurl them!) slowly to expose your feet and (good idea here) your thigh high stockings.  There is something about thigh high stockings that drive men wild.  They are every woman’s secret weapon and during your strip tease would be the perfect time to don a pair.

After your shoes are off and you are in your stocking feet, put your foot up on a chair or stool and hike your skirt up a little.  Caress your legs from the bottom all the way up…slowly…deliberately.  This will completely torment him.  After you get to the top of your leg, take the top of the stocking and gently roll it down each leg.  Take the stocking and use it as a gentle prop.  Wrap it around him gently and seductively.

After your stockings are off, turn your back to him once again and unzip your skirt and pull it slowly down.  By now you should be in your sexiest lingerie.  Touch yourself exactly as you would want him to touch you, it will drive him crazy.  Turn your back to him again, and undo your bra strap.  Pull each strap down slowly and hold the bra with arms crossed across your breasts and turn around slowly.  Let the bra drop to the floor.  Once again, it’s very important to maintain your composure, even if he’s losing his.  Touch yourself slowly, seductively and show him how much you enjoy it.  Turn around and pull your panties off extremely slowly and then kick them gently in his direction.  Turn around and move your body accordingly.  What you do from here on out is between you and your guy.  I’m betting there won’t be a TV remote involved whatsoever—and that was the point wasn’t it?  Xo J.

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Dumped

Feeling patheticIt’s been a few weeks since I have reported in on my adventures in Internet dating.  The truth is, I met someone that I thought was postitively wonderful.  He seemed so perfect and I thought that if I wrote about him it might jinx the sweet beauty of this new relationship. I am writing about him now, however in hopes that someone can learn from my experience or at least commiserate.

Mike was attentive and interesting.  He took a very strong interest in me, and better still, an interest in my kids.  (He didn’t meet them, but just asked a lot about them and their lives when we were together.)  Mike was handsome, funny, athletic and driven.  I was really falling for this guy.  I know he probably knew how I felt, but I tried to be cool.  It’s so easy to read good ol’ Jenna, though and I’m sure he was pretty confident that I was falling for him.  (I was.)

As the days turned into weeks, I could tell it was time for the inevitable.  Mike and I planned our first weekend away and our first “over-nighter.”  This was big for me because sex is completely interlinked to my heart, and I don’t consider it a small deal to sleep with a man.  I felt such a connection to Mike though and it seemed like the obvious next step to take.  I was so excited!  We booked a room at a resort nearby and planned our trip.  Everything seemed so perfect.

The location was pristine.  The weather cooperated and we had warm, balmy and beach-y nights.  We walked hand in hand along the beach and kissed passionately.  I knew that I was falling in love with Mike.  It felt so good and so right.  We had a wonderful dinner at sunset with a view overlooking the ocean.  When we went back the room we sat out on the balcony and drank some wine together and talked about our kids, our lives, the connection that we were making.  Everything was really, really wonderful, or so I thought.

Obviously we spent the night together and let me just say for the record, Mike was an amazing, attentive lover.  I will leave it at that out of respect for his privacy.  It was a very happy night for me, and I thought it was for him as well.  I was certain that Mike and I were falling in love and that we had much to look forward to.  I was blissfully happy, and assumed he was too.  He certainly acted like it.

The next morning, although Mike was still very kind and sweet he seemed distracted.  We had slept in (because we were up most of the night!) and were rushed trying to eat a quick breakfast and check out by noon.  I sensed there was something different, but wasn’t sure what it was.  We went about the morning, checked out of the room and he gave me a big hug and a lingering kiss good-bye.  I assumed everything was fine.  But it wasn’t.

This is where the situation gets tricky because I honestly have no idea what went wrong, or where it happened.  I am pretty sure that “Mike” would rather cut off his arm than tell me what the real problem is.  It’s hard for me to accept that after a night of passion as great as ours was that things would end this way, but apparently something was off-kilter.  Mike has not only not called (which prior to this he did at least once, if not twice a day) but when I did the ultimate stupid thing and called him, he texted me back and said he was tired and would talk to me “tomorrow.”  Whoa.  This is looking very grim.  Jenna get a grip…and breathe.

My guy friend thinks it may be the classic case of “conquest over…fun over.”  I didn’t realize that grown up men did this as I thought in my naivete that this behavior ended somewhere after college.  Apparently not.  I feel so upset and betrayed that I actually took my online profile down just to chill-out on this whole dating game for awhile.  Yeah, my heart feels broken.  Yeah, I feel stupid.  How could I get it so wrong?  Were there signs I needed to watch out for?  The really pathetic part is that I still jump on my phone every time it rings.  Even now–4 days of silence later–I am still hoping that I will find out he was kidnapped by terrorists and has been held hostage in a basement somewhere, still longing for me but not knowing how to reach me. This is ridiculous.   I have to face up to the truth.  I have been dumped and it really, really sucks.  xo J.

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How To Write a Dating Profile That Gets You Dates

Mar 02 2010 Published by under Dating & Relationships, Stories & Tips

Good Profile Headshot

I agonized over writing my online profile. It was hard because obviously the purpose of the profile is to create an interest in “me”, but at the same time I didn’t want to over-sell myself or come off as arrogant or self-absorbed. Even worse, I didn’t want any of the leftover bitterness from my divorce to find its way into my profile.  (Can you say turn-off?)  Here are some of my pointers regarding constructing a great online profile.  After much trial and error and admittedly a few newbie mistakes, I have come up with a few ideas for writing one.   I ended up with a really great profile that has received a lot of interest…and a few great dates!

First of all, do use humor, but don’t go overboard.  This isn’t an audition for a stand up comedy routine.  If you are going to say something you like about yourself, try to say it in a slightly self-deprecating or funny way so you don’t come off overly intimidating. Guys like women that are approachable and that they think will put them at ease. (Remember, guys are probably somewhat nervous about this whole dating business too!) If you overdo your profile with too much talking yourself up, some really great guys may find that tedious or daunting. Save some of the good stuff for later!

Use lots of photos that show your personality.  Have a CURRENT head-shot that shows you at your best self.

Bad glamour shot

Try to avoid “glamour shots” that are overly made-up and stiff as they come off a little fake. You as your natural self with a nice smile is the best approach. A professional photographer can be used if cost isn’t an issue. Otherwise, institute the help of a good friend to get some good pics! You must have more than one and I am not talking about vacation photos here. (Unless of course you are the central focus in them, so please crop accordingly! ) Pictures speak volumes about you (positively or negatively) and are one of the most important parts of your profile, so don’t overlook the potential here. As a side note, PLEASE don’t Photoshop yourself unrealistically. The point is to show off your best assets and emphasize your good features as you are (not as you would be if you lost 30 lbs or were 10 years younger). Fake or altered photos will not help you get what you ultimately want, which is a great guy that likes you as you are!

Too sexy for profile

Save the lingerie or bikini photos for later. In other words, an online profile is not the place to put overly sexy photos. I am speaking from a bit of experience here…anything construed as too sexy will attract the wrong sorts of men and you will spend a ton of time weeding the creeps out from the good guys amongst your prospective dates. Save yourself the time and be yourself without going over the top. You can save the sexy for later on once you have a good thing going with someone special.

As far as content goes, stay away from anything that sounds bitter, jaded, negative or overly-demanding. Once again, men tend to like women that seem approachable and not at all high maintenance. Don’t scare them away with lists of “must-haves” or other such lists. Find a way to get your point across with humor. Don’t spend much time discussing past relationships or dates. You don’t want to appear overloaded with issues. Don’t discuss bank accounts, job requirements or other such things. You don’t really want to brag about your Rolex watch or discuss your brand new sports car –it may make you come off as overly materialistic or other undesirable things. You can say in a generic way what your job is, but keep the focus on you, not your work.
Last but not least, have someone read your profile and proofread it. GRAMMAR does count! You will send an unnecessarily negative impression out to the world if your profile is filled with typos, spelling errors and bad grammar.
A great online profile can make a huge difference in the quality of prospective online dates. Good luck creating your profile and remember to have fun with it.  Happy dating!  XO J

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